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Come in and sit a spell! Yes, pull up a pillow and your computer, grab your favorite bag of chips, a thing of chocolate and sit down to look at what is being talked about. Some young ladies struggle to discuss things that are important to them, or near to their hearts. Perhaps it is just needing some advice (and guess what, if you have the question I promise that there are other "Little Sister's" just like you wondering the SAME EXACT THING!) We will discuss dating, friends, should-I or should-I-not's, current events, what-should-I-do's, gospel questions, and much more! I am LDS, and therefore you are going to sometimes get a matter-of-fact answer, and other times a more spiritual, gospel-centered one...either way, I hope with all my heart that I can be there for each of my "Little Sister's" from all over the world. xo Your Big Sis Dani

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Modesty...Honestly

Although I have been "writing" for years, and have even started several now non-existent blogs, this is the first one that is so near and dear to my heart that it was a must-do! Today I was reminded of this fact when I saw a dear "Little Sister's" Facebook post with a photo of herself and her friends. In the photo's they were headed to Senior Formal. The first thing that I noticed was how gorgeous she was...and her modest dress was stunning on her! Now, I LOVE bling. Can't help it. Sparkley things...yep, totally all over it! And this young lady was all about the bling! 100% class. So impressed with that. Oh, don't get me wrong ladies...I LOVE the look of so many amazingly immodest dresses. I would love to have so many of them. I think they just stunning, and I do long for one...for about a minute or two. However, after that two minutes is up...the first thing I wonder is "How can I modify this dress to make it modest and still maintain its flash and flare?" You have had the "modesty" talk a thousand times I am certain. See, I never did though. Teenage girls did not have the push 15-20 years ago that they do now about such things. At least not that I was aware of, until my Relief Society President sort of called me out on it. I was 21 and getting ready for a fancy dance and business dinner (with my future husband). It was off the shoulder. I knew it wasn't as modest as it could be, but hey I added long sleeves to it, wasn't that good enough?? I have nice shoulders!! I wanted to show them off. So, did it really matter? In the course of the night I never thought of it, and had kind of shrugged it off, but somehow I can still see her being so kind as she made suggestions knowing and understanding better than I did that I did not need such things to show my beauty. Within five months I would go to the temple...and would never wear that dress again. Do I still look at those those clothes and yearn for them...well, not so much so now, because I know that I am teaching my own daughters that their beauty lies within. That when you distract a young man with flesh..."there shall his heart be also." Now, my husband didn't seem to notice that night (convert to the Church), but having looked back...could my attire have made him uncomfortable? I know it would today. My husband is gorgeous, and his favorite outfit of mine is one where I am pretty much covered up from neck to toe. :) My LS on FB, she did not have to learn this lesson. Her date could be proud instead of uncomfortable as she tried to pull up her strapless gown over her chest for the hundreth time as it slid down. He did not have to avert his gaze when she leaned over, and all he had to focus on was this beauty that he walked into the dance with that night. And she is beautiful. When trying on clothing, ask yourself? "Where will people be looking?" If the eyes are the "window to the soul," can everyone see my soul or are they looking elsewhere becasue my attire makes them uncomfortable? Just sayin... xo Big Sis Dani
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  1. Dani November 20, 2012 at 7:56 AM

    Has to share this, took this from a friend of mine and I LOVE it!
    Boxer Muhammad Ali’s Advice To His Daughter

    An incident transpired when Muhammad Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were quite revealing.
    Here is the story as told by one of his daughters: “When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

    My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, “Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.” He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

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